Forgiveness...no matter what

How to you move on?  You pray for the other person...and learn to forgive. That's how.

Hard? Yup.

However, I learned tonight that the 'women' involved in the whole episodes posted earlier by me...are still at it.  Spreading all sorts of lies about my sweet little 7 yr old boy.  Breaks my heart really. These are people that go to OUR CHURCH.  They are speaking all of these hateful things in front of their own children...who open their mouths at Birthday parties...and continue to spread the garbage.

My heart breaks for these small minded people.  They will only know anger, hatred, and discontent.  They will never know true friendship or love.  The kind of love and friendship you gain out of RESPECT for one another.

So, God Bless You all.  I pray that you have prosperity,  health, love, and compassion in your lives.

I pray that these women know kindness, and wealth.  I pray they have prosperous lives.  I pray they find only peace and goodness.

I pray God helps me in forgiving them.  For causing another pain ON PURPOSE is a hard thing to forgive.  I will do it though...because MY children deserve to see me do it.

Lana

Moving on - Be Better!

I refuse to fall into the trap others set for me.

I will not continue a text war.  No one wins.

It only demoralizes you and both parties lose.

I will, however, block phone numbers to END the verbal abuse.

To the people that think they are being helpful in keeping the war between myself and
NoName going...Thanks so much.  After another attack via texting last night, I am very aware there are nasty people in this world that live to hurt others.

My heart was in the right place.  I only have to answer to GOD...not you.

I am an honest person, and do nothing out of spite.  If I'm wrong, I say I'm wrong.

I want to live by this code so my children have a better example in life than what they see in the school system.

Do I think I'm better than anyone else? No.  Do I think I can be a better example to my children by homeschooling them and keeping them safe from the evils and hatred out there? Yes.  This texting drama over the past week has PROVEN that to me.

It breaks my heart that grown adults cannot find a solution to a broken toy problem.  Instead, I was called names, slandered, and made to feel like a doormat.  The verbal abuse was so astounding to me, I am still shocked!  A grown woman!  How can you treat another human being like that and still say you're a christian w/ love in your heart for God?

If teen agers are subjected to that type of cruelty in school, online, and via texting...my heart breaks for you!!!!  You do NOT have to take it.  Sometimes, you just have to walk away.

Follow up to the Broken heart/toy episode

Well now this is going to be interesting.

In my last post, I told about the mom I was trying to help out.  How she was dating and I took her kids for sleep overs.  Then, her son proceeded to break several of my sons toys.  I sent her a picture of the toys via text and after that...well...lets just say all hell has broken loose.

I saw her at a soccer game practice and asked if we could talk.  She said it was not the place to talk but yes we should...but she was just too upset!

Okkkkaaay.

Then, yesterday, I received several texts from her that basically accused me of being the guilty one.  That she had been "warned" about me and didn't listen...and perhaps my son broke those toys on purpose because my husband and I fight too much and he was breaking the toys in retaliation!  Also, that maybe I'm the one with the troubled child as I have pulled my son out of TWO schools and now homeschool him.

Really?

It was like being back in high school! The EVIL and malicious way she said these thing!  I simply replied that this had taken a sad turn, when it was only about some broken toys and a little boy who could now no longer play w/ his birthday toys.  That is when she fired off the other texts. 

I cannot tell you how hurt my heart is right now.  How mean and vindictive this was.  She intentionally tried to hurt me.  With knowledge of things in my life that I've been struggling with...things I shared with her as a friend.  She turned and Threw them in my face...to hurt me.

I don't think I have ever had to deal with this level of cruelty in another woman since high school.  I'm still in shock.

I did NOT stoop to that level or fire off any retaliating texts.  I simply asked why she was doing this to me? Why was she intentionally hurting me?  Of course...no response.

I had tried to fix this...the misunderstanding.  This miscommunication.  I was trying to be an HONEST woman, and reach out and talk about these broken toys...and to see if we could figure out WHY it happened.  She took it the wrong way. She took it as an attack.  I'm not sure why.  I'll never know now because she is obviously so angry at the 'offense' I've done to her that she won't speak to me.

Now let me ask you this...

I'm a christian.  I'm far far far from perfect.  I'll be the first person to tell you that I'm probably the big "B" to a lot of people because I stand my ground and speak my mind. (that doesn't usually go over well...as you can see).  However, I try always to be FAIR.  I try always to give people the benefit of the doubt.

Now this woman professes to be a strong christian as well.  Would YOU treat another woman like she treated me?  She said she was offended by my blog...I told her it was MY blog and I never mentioned any names.  Then she proceeded to viciously attack me.  I was shocked!!!  This is christian?  This is how God wants us to resolve issues with one another?  I tried only to be calm and not get her more upset.  I tried only in the beginning to reach out to another mother regarding some expensive broken toys.

I'm at a loss.  I guess...people are just mean.  No matter how old we get.


And to the person that "WARNED" her about me...lol...good for you.  You purposely tainted another persons view of me in order to cause strife.   And...to the person that showed her my blog...was there a good reason for that?  I write this blog for ME...and to try and figure out the WHY of things.  I never write to hurt others.  Never intentionally.  If I'm wrong, I say I'm wrong.  I would never intentionally hurt another or cause pain just to make myself feel better.

I'm so disappointed in people.