Follow up to the Broken heart/toy episode

Well now this is going to be interesting.

In my last post, I told about the mom I was trying to help out.  How she was dating and I took her kids for sleep overs.  Then, her son proceeded to break several of my sons toys.  I sent her a picture of the toys via text and after that...well...lets just say all hell has broken loose.

I saw her at a soccer game practice and asked if we could talk.  She said it was not the place to talk but yes we should...but she was just too upset!

Okkkkaaay.

Then, yesterday, I received several texts from her that basically accused me of being the guilty one.  That she had been "warned" about me and didn't listen...and perhaps my son broke those toys on purpose because my husband and I fight too much and he was breaking the toys in retaliation!  Also, that maybe I'm the one with the troubled child as I have pulled my son out of TWO schools and now homeschool him.

Really?

It was like being back in high school! The EVIL and malicious way she said these thing!  I simply replied that this had taken a sad turn, when it was only about some broken toys and a little boy who could now no longer play w/ his birthday toys.  That is when she fired off the other texts. 

I cannot tell you how hurt my heart is right now.  How mean and vindictive this was.  She intentionally tried to hurt me.  With knowledge of things in my life that I've been struggling with...things I shared with her as a friend.  She turned and Threw them in my face...to hurt me.

I don't think I have ever had to deal with this level of cruelty in another woman since high school.  I'm still in shock.

I did NOT stoop to that level or fire off any retaliating texts.  I simply asked why she was doing this to me? Why was she intentionally hurting me?  Of course...no response.

I had tried to fix this...the misunderstanding.  This miscommunication.  I was trying to be an HONEST woman, and reach out and talk about these broken toys...and to see if we could figure out WHY it happened.  She took it the wrong way. She took it as an attack.  I'm not sure why.  I'll never know now because she is obviously so angry at the 'offense' I've done to her that she won't speak to me.

Now let me ask you this...

I'm a christian.  I'm far far far from perfect.  I'll be the first person to tell you that I'm probably the big "B" to a lot of people because I stand my ground and speak my mind. (that doesn't usually go over well...as you can see).  However, I try always to be FAIR.  I try always to give people the benefit of the doubt.

Now this woman professes to be a strong christian as well.  Would YOU treat another woman like she treated me?  She said she was offended by my blog...I told her it was MY blog and I never mentioned any names.  Then she proceeded to viciously attack me.  I was shocked!!!  This is christian?  This is how God wants us to resolve issues with one another?  I tried only to be calm and not get her more upset.  I tried only in the beginning to reach out to another mother regarding some expensive broken toys.

I'm at a loss.  I guess...people are just mean.  No matter how old we get.


And to the person that "WARNED" her about me...lol...good for you.  You purposely tainted another persons view of me in order to cause strife.   And...to the person that showed her my blog...was there a good reason for that?  I write this blog for ME...and to try and figure out the WHY of things.  I never write to hurt others.  Never intentionally.  If I'm wrong, I say I'm wrong.  I would never intentionally hurt another or cause pain just to make myself feel better.

I'm so disappointed in people.

Don't Give Up

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KZW5I_l_p6M

Broken Toys and Broken Hearts

I am in a bit of a struggle here.  I have been helping out another mom w/ her two kids.  They've spent two over nights w/ us and have had a great time.  Two weekends in a row.

Here is my struggle.

The boy is about 7 yrs old....or soon to be anyway.  He destroyed three of our little guys birthday presents that he'd received when we took him to the Great Wolf Lodge back in July.  I was pretty upset when the kids brought this to my attention, so I took a snap shot of the toys w/ my phone, and texted the mom w/ the photo to let her know her son had broken the toys.

When she got back to me later she told me the one toy was already broken and that her son 'accidentally' broke the others.  I asked her if we could just use this as a learning experience regarding other peoples property, because my son was very upset that his toys were all destroyed.

Well this turned into a lengthy texting drama.  I kept telling her I was only trying to let her know about this out of love for her and her children (she's a single mom trying to date).  She said I was attacking her and that no one has ever mentioned that her son was out of control. etc etc etc.

Now, this is a kid that is basically WILD.  He got into our chicken coop and terrorized the hens by chasing them...and proceeded to THROW eggs at our coop!  More than 6 eggs.  I was very upset over that.

I feel I have lost a nice friend because I was HONEST and brought a matter to her attention.

When do you not make kids accountable?  I mean...I did not mention the COST of these broken toys, but they were at least $100 total.  These were his BIRTHDAY presents!!!  I am more upset at her response to this whole thing than the broken toys I think.  I was just trying to be responsible myself in telling her, and showing my own children that we must be honest, face our fears of coming forward when we break a toy, and take the punishment.  This other boy has NO punishment.

Needless to say, the little boy will not be invited back.