A happy me

A happy me
family - is everything

Wednesday, November 9, 2011

Weigh In and quick update

OK...omg...I just did my measurements and a weigh in.  WOW. Since March of this year when all the hoops had almost been jumped through, and I weighed in at the Surgeon's office...it was 222 lbs.  (My scale was higher but it sucked ha).  So, weigh in today at home was 169.3 lbs! (new scale!!!).  THAT Is 53 lbs!!!! I am so excited!  Plus, I've lost a total of 38 inches overall. Yes. Thank you God!

I feel great! I feel like I look great too!  I am going to have my nephew make a slide show for me. Yes, it's still in the works.  Today is my 4 month surgiversary so I need to get more pictures done.  I want there to be several for the slide show.  He is going to use one of his very own songs to go along with it!  I told him to put the lyrics in there as they are pretty awesome!!!  So...be patient.  We are super busy w/ Fall Clean-ups (lawn care) right now, and the weather not in our favor...lots of RAIN and maybe SNOW tomorrow. yuck. Not yet please.  Plus the old fart riding lawn mower we use for this type of work has pooped out and is once again (yes at least 3x's a year) in the shop. AHHHHHH  Never a dull moment.

Sadness has also found its way into a dear friends life.  My old friend from home (Ludington, MI) lost her father yesterday.  I send out love and friendship to you Lisa Loxen Makowicki.  To you and yours.  I will be going to the funeral on Saturday.  Mr. Eye Candy worked today so he could take Saturday off so I could go down to be with them.  What a man.

My little Mr. E (6 yrs old) keeps telling me that he wants Santa to bring him a "Murray Dog Puppy" for Christamas.  We used to have a GREAT old Golden Retriever named Murray, and Mr. E loved him!  I've actually gone online and did some looking...but OMG they are expensive.  Plus...do I really want a puppy? lol

Anywho!!  Looks like Sunday is gonna be a fun day for me! I got a babysitter lined up and a couple of my old girlies and I are gonna meet up for a MOVIE! Wow...when do I get to do that?  We've been talking about "FOOTLOOSE" since it started advertising.  Back in my day......ahem....we were teenagers that totally LOVED that old film...that is now the remake. LOL So we're going to try and go see it again together like we did...um....20some years ago!? eek!

Have a great rest of your week everyone! I promise to get my nephew working on that slide show SOON.

Lana out.

Tuesday, November 1, 2011

Latest Picture and another Size DOWN

Ok peeps.  This one is sort of a happy dance post, and a "damn I'm a big mouth" post.

First things first however...so then if you don't want to read the rest of the ramblings you can move on. lol

I was going through the closet today, and thought..."Ya know...I'm gonna try these size 12's on and see how much farther I have to go to get into those babies".  GUESS WHAT! THEY FIT! I was doing a happy dance and racing around to get the camera and get a shot for you guys!  Here ya go...in my size 12's...that I bought at my friend Natalie's Consignment shop...The Cedar Chest in Ludington, MI. (good plug huh nat?)

my size 12's      

So there ya have it! Oh yeah. Pretty happy.

As for the other ramblings, it is sort of one of those things that you just can't escape.  I didn't make my sister too happy when I 'blasted' her about the holiday thing.  She's a pretty private person, and basically I'm not.  I'm one of those people that is open and ...well...I just don't have secrets I guess. (not that she does).  She is just more private and doesn't air laundry.

So I am publicly apologizing to her.  I'm not sure if she reads this blog or just hears about it from others who do.  I have to say one thing in my defense ... I have asked for years and have never received an answer.  SO, hence the last blog.  I use my blog to try and sort things out in my mind.  I should have not posted it though.  The last one.  I'm saying I'm sorry. 

I miss my family...the days of Thanksgiving and Christmas where we all gathered together at Grandma J's house are long gone.  I wish for those days.  I miss the anticipation for the cousins to get there!!!  The waiting! ha ha  We would all save a gift at Christmas so all of the kids could open one gift at Grandma and Grandpa's.  OH the smells from the kitchen!!!!  Aunt Norma's famous banana nut salad. YUMMY. Makes my mouth water thinking about it.  Grandma's 'cheese tree'.  Sigh...I miss that warm safe feeling.  That "KNOWING" that we were all together and full of love for each other.  

We have our own traditions we're creating with our kids.  Each year after Thanksgiving, we go to the Hallmark Store to pick out a new ornament.  Little Mr. E, and the Princess each get to pick one out.  It's so fun to watch them!!! I love this tradition.  We label the boxes with the year and their names.  So, someday when they are older and move out into their own homes to create their own traditions...they will have a tree's worth of ornaments. (or close!)

So here is to FAMILY.  Near or far.  I love you all.  I love you deeply and miss you always.  When I chose to move to Leelanau County...I did not realize it would mean I'd have to give you all up at the holidays.  That is the hardest part for me.  So I blog. LOL  I write it out.  I talk to myself here.  I talk to all of you. 

This year I will focus on the blessings I have.  My health...my size 12's back...and my beautiful children and my Mr. Eye Candy.  We may not be rich (far from it), but we sure have enough love to fill this house and then some.

By the way...if anyone needs a little extra turkey dinner this year...come on over. 

Saturday, October 29, 2011

Family is not always the Best.

Well, once again...12 years later, I'm STILL trying to figure out what it is that keeps my sister from sharing a Holiday w/ my family.  The kids, Mr. Eye Candy and I have never shared ONE holiday with my sister and her family.  I personally have not been to her house for a holiday EVER.  Since my mother died almost 12 yrs ago, it has never once been mentioned or arranged.  I've tried and tried to get her to talk to me about WHY we do not share holidays.  I mean...my children would LOVE to spend a Christmas at my sisters house, or have them come to ours.  Every time I have brought up the subject I get snubbed, unanswered, or just plain ignored.  A year ago it caused such a rift between us that I stopped speaking to her. 

You know how when someone does not answer your POINT BLANK question?  You're left to draw any conclusion that comes to mind.  Let me tell you, the reasons I've come up with in my own mind as to why we are never invited, or even associated with at the Holiday hour...are many and horrible.  I once again tried to reach out to my sister. I was open...and asked her point blank in an email (which by the way is the only way to reach her because she is so busy).  I told her the list of reasons my own mind created...and they were sad. Painful and sad.  And guess what?  Two days later and she has NOT responded to the email.  Guess what my mind is saying to me now?  Yup...I'm a loser.  I'm not good enough for them.  Neither are my children or my gorgeous man.

Oh I could go into this pretty deep.  Give you background.  I'm not going to though as it's pretty painful even now to even write this.  I've always been an open person, and maybe that is too much for my sister? I've always felt I must be an embarrassment to her.  Why else would she alienate me and my family during the Holidays EVERY year?  It must must must be ME.

And, now, at a time when I'm finally learning to like me again...here come the holidays.  Reminding me of the loneliness of it all.  Mom and Dad gone. Grandma and Grandpa gone. 

I will say this...I'm very grateful for where I came from.  I love the family back in my little town. (love you guys!!!)  I'm not ashamed of where I came from or WHO I am.   I'm lucky to have had the best parents in the world.  I try to be that same type of Mom to my kids although I know I fall short...but at least my heart is always full of love and I know I'm trying my best for them.

I want Holidays to be FAMILY.  We spend our Turkey Day and Christmas time with just each other.  Sometimes the roads in MI are rough and the idea of travel is not always welcome.  However, this is my SISTER we're talking about.  What gives? What have I done?  I get no answers from her, so am left to dream up the worst.  In this case my mind is very very very good at dreaming up reasons.  Evil, horrible reasons.

So here we go again...another year of creating our own traditions in our little home.  I'm OK with that, but just once I'd like to KNOW why why why.  Is that asking too much?  Even if it hurts me? You bet. I still want to know.